I have worked with so many people, who told me about problems in their relationships and the big questions always seems to be:
When do we actually know it is time to end a relationship?
It is helpful to ask ourselves, what is our motivation to stay? It might be that we care so deeply about the other person, that it is hard to imagine a life without them. It could be a lack of courage, fear of being on our own, financial worries, a fear that suddenly our ex-partner will flourish and we wished we had stayed around to experience this.
There are so many reasons that hold us back from making that step and admitting to ourselves that we are not doing each other a favour by staying together.
Ultimately we have to ask ourselves if we are happy in our relationship, do we feel supported, loved, inspired, desired and respected?
When things are not going too well then it is important not to blame, shame or feel guilty. It always takes two....
There might be a lingering feeling of failure, thinking we have wasted time. We put so much hope into this relationship. This is "the one"! And it surely was the one for a certain period of time.
As my teacher Keith Wilson says "you are always with the perfect lover"!
We have possibly been at points before where we had enough, but for one reason or the other we stayed together.
If things don't improve then feelings of resentment will creep in and you might think: I have done everything I could, I have been so patient, I have helped them to grow, I have forgiven over and over again....
But that's not the point, because they could possibly say exactly the same about you.
All there is to do is to say a big "Thank you", cry as many tears as you need to and wish them a wonderful future.
Remember you are never on your own, although you might feel incredibly lonely at times. And if you end up back on your friend's sofa for a little while, then that's ok, because that's what family is for....
In the not too distant future you will see the blessing in cutting the cords to this particular person. You might be quite shocked to see into how many unhelpful patterns you got whilst being with them. But that's ok, because we are here to experience it all! The whole spectrum of polarities.
Often you are brought together with a person, possibly your soul mate, in this life time once again to heal an unhealthy relationship that you might have had with them in a previous life. You are given another opportunity to empower yourself by letting go of this person you love.
Set them free and set yourself free even more importantly.
Use the high energies we are experiencing at this particular time on our planet to spread your wings and fly magical soul!
You are doing an amazing job at "pretending to be human".
It is exciting to live in a human form, but it is not always easy.
Don't forget there are plenty of souls around you who see you properly, they see your magic and remind you of who you truly are.
Remember.......!!!! That ocean of love, which you are always connected to, but now there is also the "You" a cluster of consciousness with limitless opportunities to create, create, create! And that is the greatest gift anyone could ever receive.
So lift yourself out of your dramas by accessing a third consciousness that equally loves and embraces all polarities, seeing that they are all part of the One.
Weave a new story you beautiful creator. What would you like to experience? The best way to start is weaving a beautiful relationship with yourself. Treat yourself and your inner chid exactly how you wish to be treated. If old stories keep pulling you back into the drama then re-write them.
Choose another time line by changing the way how you feel about a certain situation. Change your present and future by changing your past!
Take a deep breath and find yourself in a new empowered space, where more karmic bonds have been released.
Stay in your heart my friend. This is where I see you and you see me... Properly!!!! We are One.
And always remember:
You are loved beyond your wildest imagination!!!!!
A celebration of Spirit - of loving you.
The festive season is upon us and I would like to invite you, independent from what faith, religion or culture you associate with, to remember and celebrate your Spirit and the unique journey you are on in this time of "the new dawn".
The fact that you walk this Earth in human form right now means that your energy is invaluable for the great shift in consciousness, the ascension process, 2nd coming of Christ...
The light in many of us is increasing rapidly as the seeds, that Christ and other enlightened masters have sown are flourishing.
This process illuminates the darkness and brings up everything that is not in balance. Whilst things at the moment seem to be worse than ever, know that this is part of a great cleansing process, the "big purge" necessary for healing.
A "healed" Earth and 'healed' humanity means to me, that the feminine and masculine energies are in perfect balance. To contribute to this harmony we need to look at a possible imbalance within us. The masculine energy is focused, action oriented and manifests, whereas the feminine is like a vast ocean, nurturing and receptive. It is important to know ourselves well! Which one of those two energies is prominent in us and how can we bring them into unity.
I personally have a lot of masculine energy, which helps me to get things done, manifest and lead others. Therefore it is important for me to remember to be patient, not force things to happen and to be receptive. I try to engage in activities that help me to connect to the Sacred Feminine such as working with female archetypes and the Goddesses that are associated with certain feminine qualities:
Mary Magdalene for unconditional love and sacred union
Isis for for Rebirth and sacred womb wisdom
Spider Woman for creation and weaving of new stories
(and there are so many more).
Balancing the chakras and residing in loving awareness in our hearts will help us to connect to our Spirit, enabling a direct connection to our soul and she will guide us.
When I feel disconnected and unbalanced I call on my guides. All of us have a group of allies, that are at our service, some of them known, others unknown to us:
Archangels, Angels, Power Animals, Ascended Masters, Ancestors, Nature Spirits and the list goes on.
You can connect with them through shamanic journeying, ceremony, meditation, nature walks, art, music, plant medicine and prayer. Messages can come through images, feelings, knowing, audible messages and even a particular smell. Everyone is different and there is no right or wrong way. Just make sure your rational mind is out of the picture here. Trust yourself!
Walk on this earth gently, lead by example, try to leave everyone you encounter in a happier place, share your wisdom and gifts and most importantly:
Be yourself. That's your only mission, which if accomplished will make a massive contribution to the energetic shift, that is happening on this planet right now.
I wish you from the bottom of my heart a wonderful celebration of Spirit, of your magnificent self.
"All I ask of you is forever to remember you as loving you, loving you. Ishq Allah, Mabudh Lillah" (Sufi chant)
You are loved beyond your wildest imagination!!!!!
We are children of the Goddess (How to heal your Inner Child)
Over the years I have continued to give my power away to teachers, family members, my husband, friends and students by having certain expectations on them, mainly wanting them to give me acknowledgement and tell me that I am doing well, but also by being attached to certain outcomes.
A deep seated need for appreciation from others has roots in feeling separated from God/Goddess in many life times/parallel Universes that are playing out right now.
Asking for acknowledgement from the outside is a reflection of a lack of self love, thinking there is something wrong with me, that I am not enough, and that I am not lovable...
I increasingly see my own self-worth and magic. I know that I have unique gifts and talents just as everyone else has. And I now understand, that these gifts don’t have to be validated by anyone other than by myself.
Additionally to that, if we work with people it is easy to fall into the trap of wanting to fix them, make them better and with that making ourselves feel better. Being attached to this outcome means that we make them wrong and don't love them unconditionally.
How we can make the biggest difference is to accept people exactly where they are at, love them and don’t expect them to change in they way we think is right. If change is what they are looking for then it is their decision when to start and how they do it. Lead by example and through that show others their own magical light within.
The main beautiful challenge we face is healing ourselves and the biggest part of this is to heal the relationship with our inner children.
To let them know that they are very much loved and that they are perfect exactly as they are. Make them feel safe, so that they don't feel the need of controlling. Allow them to be completely present, play, be creative and express themselves in many ways.
Please know, that you are on your path, always have been and always will be!
Anyone who tells you otherwise might be projecting onto you and is attached to an outcome. So rather than feeling offended see this as a wonderful gift to empower yourself.
You have everything you need and you are exactly where you are meant to be on your journey.
Find your tribe, spend time with people, who inspire you. But never underestimate your inner wisdom and find your own ways to connect to the Divine Mother, whose essence resides within you.
So more you realise this, so more you will be in your power, gracefully and with an open heart that's filled with trust and faith.
Life will become more joyful and effortless, opportunities will come up, doors will open and more and more magic will unfold....beyond your wildest imagination!
I invite you to choose to love yourself every moment a little bit more and sing from the bottom of your heart:
I am the Light of the Soul
I am bountiful
I am beautiful
I am blissful
I am, I am!!!!!
Shine bright, spread your wings and vibrate on the highest frequency of love.
"Let go of your attachments, let go of your confusion and fly to that space that’s beyond all illusion." Shimshai
And we will All be there, waiting for you with open arms.
We are the children of love, the children of the Goddess and I wish for all of us that we can be more accepting of each other, have loving relationship without competitiveness and celebrate each others’ successes.
AHO!!!!!!!!!!!
We are Beings of Light
This is easily said, but how much do we really believe and live this?
As children we are much more open to wonders and miracles. We are aware of our angels and light beings around us. We believe in magic, unicorns and fairies. There are no limits to our imagination. Everything seems possible.
What happened? Experiences we shared might have been ridiculed, we were not taken seriously. We were told off for making things up. Soon we were convinced that our imagination might have taken the better of us. We were brought up by humans who have forgotten who they truly are, they have forgotten their divinity.
It is time to connect to the light and wisdom in our hearts and expand in love rather than limit ourselves through fear. It is then that we will be filled with divine grace.
What helps us to remember is a daily spiritual practice, a routine, maybe rituals such as a daily prayer. Through tuning into this vast potential and communicating with it we can reclaim our True Self, the Sat Nam.
We live in times of change shifting into a new consciousness.
It is important to access our own inner light, trust that we are guided and that everything will be provided – always! All we need to make this shift, resides in our own awareness of ourselves as Beings of Light.
Be patient with yourself, embrace challenges, love and be kind to yourself and others and accept what is happening now. Follow the Divine spark within your heart and feel the connection between you and all of creation. Once you embrace your own Divinity, you will discover that you are here for a greater reason.
Achieve an experience of God
One example to help you reclaim your truth is this meditation. Why not give it a go?
Lyrics for Rakhay Rakhanhaar:
Rakhay rakhanhaar aap ubaariun
Gur kee pairee paa-eh kaaj savaariun
Hoaa aap dayaal manho na visaariun
Saadh janaa kai sung bhavjal taariun
Saakat nindak dusht khin maa-eh bidaariun
Tis saahib kee tayk naanak manai maa-eh
Jis simrat sukh ho-eh saglay dookh jaa-eh
"These are the words of Guru Arjan, the 5th Sikh Guru, and are for complete protection. It is from the evening prayer (Rehiras), which adds energy to one’s being, and helps when you are physically weak or have limited wealth. It is a victory song which allows us to be guided by God’s graceful and merciful hand. It does away with the obstacles to fulfilling one’s destiny.
Chanting this mantra helps against fluctuations of the mind. This mantra is included in the Aquarian Sadhana and is done as a part of the daily practice in the morning meditations for Kundalini Yoga practitioners." www.spirityoyage.com
Now go and shine your beautiful light. It is your gift to humanity. Love to All
Choose LOVE not Fear
Walk strong and open heartedly on your spiritual path, receptive to being divinely guided every step of your way.
I feel strongly that all of us have the potential to be light workers and help others to shine their light through embracing and using our unique gifts and talents. That doesn't mean that we have to be spiritual teachers, yoga teachers etc, but we can inspire others through our words, actions, art, leading by example, being kind etc.
All of us can make a massive contribution to increase the vibration of humanity and the planet by simply starting to accept and love ourselves.
This love will have a ripple effect, affecting those people close to us and they will affect people close to them. So rather than blaming others for the state the world is in, let's take shared responsibility as we all have created this reality together.
It is time to choose love over fear and feed and nurture this love through smiles, random acts of kindness, spreading positive news, being of service and there is so much more that will help LOVE to grow.
Remember that all your efforts are seen, so don't be disheartened when you don't get an instant acknowledgement or appreciation.
Think about what or who has inspired you to make positive changes in your life and share this with others. Maybe think about getting involved in community projects or setting up your own meetup groups. Choosing love also means to choose connectedness rather than separation. Engaging with others and sharing our experiences is the most wonderful and powerful thing we can do.
Especially if we have lost ourselves and with that our self-confidence, coming together in groups with like minded people will help us to see our beauty and our wisdom and show us how much we have to share with others.
What we all have in common is that a spark has been ignited, we have been activated, we have remembered our soul and divine aspect. Once that has happened there is no going back! So best now is to go with the flow and let go of those old patterns and belief systems. And that can be scary!!!! But you have the hearts of spiritual warriors and with that the courage to truly trust and fully embrace your divine mission.
Remember to keep the balance and check in with yourself on a regular basis. Friends are always good at spotting what's going on for you especially when you can't see the forest for the trees..... It does happen. I know that well (-;
The ego is still there, ready to jump into action. So be aware of that and remind yourself what the aim of all your efforts is. What is your life mission?
My mission is to live a healthy and happy life, to spread the message of pure divine love and help others to find their light.
It took me some time to come to this realisation and I am doing my best, but of course there are days when fear has a strong grip over me and I find it difficult to choose love. So, don't get frustrated. The only failure in life is when you give up your efforts. AHO!!!!!!!!!
